Raising Adam: From diagnosis to empowerment

Andrea Stevens
AFRO Staff Writer
astevens@afro.com

Raising a child with a disability often comes with challenges, but for many families, it also brings unexpected joy, strength and a deeper sense of purpose. Across the country, families like the Forbes of Prince George’s County, Md., are embracing the journey, finding pride not only in their child’s progress but in their own growth as advocates, caregivers and champions of inclusion.

Al and Denise Forbes say raising their 5-year-old son Adam, who has autism, has reshaped how they see the world and filled their lives with pride and purpose.

“You don’t realize what you take for granted until you wait almost four years to hear your child say ‘Mama,’” said Denise. “That was one of the greatest joys of my life.”

Adam was diagnosed with autism at age 2, after early signs such as lack of eye contact and delayed speech. Since then, the couple—who have been married since 2007 and have three sons—have committed to early intervention, therapy and constant encouragement.

“Adam is incredibly resilient,” said Al. “Every time we’re nervous about a new environment, he adapts better than we expect. He always surprises us.”

The couple said their pride stems not only from Adam’s milestones, but from who he is—a bright, curious child with a passion for cars and an exceptional memory.

“I can show him a word one time and he’ll remember it,” Denise said. “That’s one of his little superpowers.”

The diagnosis changed more than their parenting style—it changed their perspective.

“Adam changed our entire outlook on life—how we see ourselves, other families, and the world,” said Denise. “It’s made us more empathetic.”

Al added, “It doesn’t cost anything to be kind. Everyone’s experience with autism is different. We’ve learned to approach people with more understanding.”

Kamaria Wentt, a registered behavior technician ( RBT), certified clinical medical assistant (CCMA) and  med aid (MA) among other qualifications, works with children on the autism spectrum and says watching a child progress and empowering families to be part of that process is at the heart of her work.

“It’s very exciting and rewarding being there with the parents and showing them it’s possible to go from one step to the next, and teaching them how to do it too,” Wentz said. “I love the work.”

She adds that meaningful progress requires teamwork across a child’s entire support system.

“This kind of therapy isn’t just for specialists,” she said. “It’s meant to include everyone — parents, caregivers, all the stakeholders in a child’s life.”

Early intervention was a critical step for the Forbes family. Denise credits a friend who encouraged her to get Adam evaluated after noticing early signs.

“I don’t define Adam by his diagnosis,” she said. “He is so much more, and I’m proud we took the steps early to help him be his best self.”

Though the family has kept Adam’s diagnosis private until now, they believe sharing their story can help others.

“When you share your story, you empower another parent to take action,” said Denise. “It creates community.”

Al emphasized the importance of preparation and support.

“Our job is to prepare him to take care of himself, even when we’re no longer here,” he said. “This journey is challenging, but it’s rewarding. Seeing growth and progress after all the effort—that’s what makes it worth it.”